Tangible Minds™

The Tangible Minds Self Inquiry Practice™

PART 2

Choose a mapped feeling to release. Write its name in the bottom right corner of the template.

• Read the following questions verbatim, and write down the answers word for word.
• If an answer isn’t clear at first, invite different possibilities until one feels right.
• If you're facilitating someone, speak slowly and from the heart. Repeat their answers back to them.
• Be prepared to be surprised.

The first time you transform a feeling, read the following preamble. For subsequent feelings, simply summarize this briefly.

“So as we get started moving this feeling, I’m going to ask you to look at each quality of this feeling, and invite it to explore other options. For example: with temperature, we’ll ask this part of you whether it would prefer to be warmer, or cooler... And, as we do that, the feeling will move in a direction that feels better: it will actually change.

“Now at one time, this part of you took this form for a good reason… It was an entirely appropriate response to a difficult situation. So… as this feeling moves, just know that it can always go back if it ever needs to. We’re not taking any choices away. We’re creating new choices, so it’s safe to allow this feeling to explore new possibilities.

“So what we’re doing, is exploring: what would this part of you get to be, in a perfect world? Where a ‘perfect world’ …has nothing to do with the outside world, but rather with your relationship to it, and to yourself… such that all your needs are met… and you know how to keep them that way…

“As we move this feeling, it may be that other feelings might step into the foreground. So if you notice another feeling wanting attention, just let me know and we’ll go back and map that feeling as well.”

“Also, trust the feeling. Go with what feels best, rather than what you think the feeling should be.”

Releasing

Read the following questions, and write down your friend’s answers on a new sheet or Part 2 of the template . If an answer isn’t clear at first, invite your friend to try on different possibilities until one feels right. Read back your notes as you go. Be prepared to be surprised, and accept whatever your friend answers.

“What is your first impression of the positive motivation underlying this this part of you? What do you think it might be trying to become or do for you?”

“So, in a perfect world, where all your needs are met, and you know how to keep them that way… if this part of you were free to become warmer or cooler, which would feel better?… And in becoming [ warmer/cooler ], if this part of you could become any temperature at all, what temperature would it most want to be?”

“And in becoming [ new temperature ], if this part of you could become harder or softer, heavier or lighter, which would feel better? … If this part of you could take on qualities of any substance at all, would it prefer to be more like a solid, liquid, gas, some kind of pure light or energy, or something else? … What other properties would this part of you like to take on, such as hard / soft, thick / thin, heavy / light, smooth / rough?”

“So in becoming [ new temperature and substance ], if this part of you were free to take on any color at all, any color of the rainbow, what color, or colors, would it most want to be? … And would it want to be opaque, translucent, or transparent? … And is there any luminosity, iridescence, shimmering, or sparkling?”

“And in becoming [ new temperature, substance, and color ], if this part of you were free to occupy any location in or around your body, where would it want to be located? … And if it could be any size and shape, what size and shape would it most want to be?”

“If this part of you were free to take on any qualities of movement, would it want to be flowing, pulsing, vibrating, or moving in some other way?”

“And if you were to imagine sound, or words, that go with this new feeling, what would they be? … What are the qualities of that sound or voice?”

“Is there anything else you want to notice about what this part of you wants to become?”

Beliefs

Read the following questions, inviting your friend to complete the sentence fragments you offer. Write down each full sentence.

“Speaking from this feeling, how would you complete the sentence ‘I am…’ or ‘I am not…’”

“OK. So ‘I am [ quote, using EXACT words ]; therefore
I can or will; or can’t or won’t… what?’”

“OK. So ‘I [ quote the last statement, using EXACT words ]; because I have, or don’t have… what?’”

“[ Quote the last statement, using EXACT words ]; and so I want to, or don’t want to … what?”

Name the new feeling and draw it.

Integrate

“How do you imagine having this new feeling will change your experience of the original situation? What’s different about how you will think and act?”

“What are two ways you can remind yourself of this new feeling when you need it? How can you practice this new feeling every day this week?”

Repeat with other feelings.